Sunday, 28 September 2014

Be Nice To Yourself

It's easy to get bogged down with negative thoughts. We all have insecure moments. That one negative thing or comment always sticks with us, even if it is amongst ten positives. What we don't realise is how much damage it is doing to our self esteem, and how the only person who is being affected by all that negativity is ourselves. It's so important to try and remain positive. You are who you are, you're only here once, so you might as well stop beating yourself up and learn to be nice to yourself. Your life will be better for it, I promise.

A big step towards being nice to yourself is to accept compliments. Just say thank you. It's not hard, right? Wrong. So many of us struggle with such a simple thing of smiling and saying thank you after someone pays us a compliment. If someone says they like your dress do you ever say 'oh this old thing?' or 'what this? I got it in the sale?' or 'it was only a tenner!'? Or if someone compliments the way you look do you say 'oh I got ready in such a rush', or 'oh no I look awful today'? Sound familiar? We feel the need to bring ourselves down. Stop it. Next time someone pays you any kind of compliment just say thank you. It doesn't sound big headed, the person paying you the compliment wants you to feel good and will probably feel good in turn if they think they've made you happy. It just makes your mind feel better about yourself, which will do wonders to your self esteem. 

Another way to improve your self esteem is to actually say nice things to yourself. I talk to myself all the time when I'm alone at home. Instead of chastising yourself for being an idiot, take a few minutes out to actually think about things you've achieved. This is particularly important to do on those low days. Just congratulate yourself and say well done for anything that you've done recently. Like, if you've recently done a presentation at work, or had a job interview, or had new blog followers this week, or even cooked a nice meal for the family, congratulate yourself on your hard work. You'd say well done to someone else if they'd achieved that, so make sure you say it to yourself too.

Following on from this, you need to learn to be proud of yourself and what you have achieved. Instead of thinking other people's lives/ blogs/ relationships are better than yours, stop comparing yourself to them (believe me they'll have problems that you're not even aware of!) and focus instead on everything good about your life/ blog/ relationship. You should be proud of yourself for even setting up and maintaining a blog, it takes a lot of hard work and effort, don't do yourself down about it. Just try to see the positive things about your life. Write them all down if you think it will help. List all the reasons why you should be happy- your loving family, some great friends, a boyfriend who loves you, a job you enjoy, a holiday coming up etc etc.

Stop yourself from saying negative things as your subconscious will believe them. Learn to be nicer to yourself and you'll be happier for it.

Are you too hard on yourself? What tips have you got for being nice to yourself? 

Rosy x


  1. Such a great post! I couldn't have read this post at a better time. I feel as though lately I am putting an incredible amount of pressure on myself to achieve and to do everything. I feel as though I should defo me a lot nicer to myself and understand that I can't do everything! Might write a little note on my mirror to remind myself :) Also I should definitely, like you said remind myself of the things I have achieved rather than dwelling on the things I haven't. Maybe write a list of things I have done rather than a 'to do list'. Well said Rosy :) Michaela xx ( )

  2. I love this post!
    I am definitely one to brush off compliments and be like 'what do you want?' haha.
    I'm definitely putting 'Be nicer to self' on my everyday to-do list xx

    Laura | elelibee

  3. love this post! i definitely beat myself up more than i should - need to remember i'm not as bad as i probably think i am haha

    from helen at /// new blog sale

  4. Advice that everyone can adhere to! We're all guilty of being too harsh on ourselves, myself most definitely included. If I'm having a bad day, I allow myself just 10 - 15 mins to feel rubbish, cry if necessary, then shake myself off and do something good for myself and try not get bogged down. Not always easy though!
    Tash | Dance, Flow, Lift

  5. This is such a lovely post hun, I completely agree and do it to myself all the time- it actually seems a bit off when I hear people say it in response to a compliment I pay them so I MUST try harder! xxx

    Blonde of carbs

  6. How true....why do women beat themselves up so much more than men seem to? I am very guilty of this. Must try and be nicer to myself because I wouldn't speak to another person the way I sometimes speak to myself. I also think its good to spoil yourself a couple of times a week too whether it's a relaxing bath, an evening with a film and a glass of wine, a new book or a new lipstick....doesn't have to be expensive just pampering!

  7. I just stumbled across this at the perfect time! I'm having such a rubbish time lately, for fault of my own, and I keep chastising myself frequently. I often forget to reward or congratulate myself for my hard work so this post was a really nice reminder to do so. :) x


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