Friday, 14 August 2015

Five Things To Do To Put Yourself In A Better Mood


Lately I've been feeling quite down....
There's no huge reason, just a lot of things snowballing to combine and make me feel rubbish. I've slipped a disc in my back and it's left me barely able to move. I'm in constant pain, and am unable to leave the house. So, for the past three weeks I have just been working from home everyday on my PhD. I am grateful that I'm doing something that I can do from home whilst I recover, but, as I'm at the final, writing-up stage of my PhD and the deadline looms closer, that is pretty stressful in itself. On top of being in a lot of pain and unable to do simple tasks like put my socks on (honestly I never realised how much I actually used my back until it started hurting!), I'm trying to organise a wedding and run a blog, both of which I really enjoy usually but on top of everything else, it's starting to get a bit much and I've felt myself starting to crumble.

I'm usually a positive person and I hate feeling down. I will not allow myself to give in to self pity and to the monster that is stress, no matter hard the battle is. Determined to stay positive, I have come up with five things that have made me feel better recently, and that have helped me to fight off the stress, panic and sadness...


1. Three Positive Things A Day.
Each night I write down three positive things that have happened to me that day. Sometimes it is quite hard as it feels like it's been a terrible day, but even on those days it makes you think of small things that have been good. Sometimes it's simple things like "lunch was really nice" or "we had a really relaxing evening watching a good programme". On days like these I find myself really searching for something to put, but it's surprised me because I have always found something, no matter how small.  Alternatively, when I've had a good day I am always eager to write it down and it feels great relieving it. For example, one of my best friends (and one half of one of my favourite couples in the world!) got engaged this week and I am so unbelievably happy for them I could pop! They came round to our flat to share the news with us in person and it was one of the best evenings of my life. Needless to say, writing down my positives later on was a piece of cake!

Either way, no matter what the day was like, it makes me go to bed feeling more positive and not focusing on the negative things that have happened. It feels nice and calming to remember the good things and let the bad things go. I think it will also be a nice kind of diary to keep and look back on all the good things that have happened in years to come.


2. Buy yourself some flowers.
Having flowers and plants around the flat always cheers me up. I don't know why, I just think flowers add a pop of colour to the room and they always look happy, so they make me smile! I am also always hearing that having flowers and plants around you is good for you and your mind too, so maybe there's something in that.

Either way, I was lucky enough to receive these flowers from Appleyard London* last week, who pride themselves on sending next day flowers across the UK. I picked a particularly bright bunch called Summer Coulis to make a big impact. Having these flowers in my line of sight whilst working has helped to make me feel more summery and happy, and when I glance at them from across the room, they do make me smile and it does make me feel better. So, I recommend treating yourself some flowers today! Also, it's always nice to send flowers to a friend who is struggling too. I know if I received one I would be so touched. It's just the nicest feeling in the world to know that someone is thinking of you when you're down and to know that you are loved. 

If you want to treat yourself to a bunch from Appleyard London then use my discount code BLOG33 to get 33% off any luxury bouquet (excluding the flowers by post range).


3. Watch a feel good film or read a good book. 
I was feeling rubbish the other day so in the evening I snuggled up on the sofa with a cup of tea and some Reese's Pieces and watched Despicable Me 2. It made me laugh and cheered me up no end.  Laughter really is the best medicine! The lighter the film the better, which is why chick flicks and animated ones like Shrek, Despicable Me or anything Disney are brilliant.

Equally, lose yourself in a good book. Either a gripping thriller/ mystery to keep you focused and completely take your mind off your work or worries, or a chick lit which is a much lighter read and one that can be uplifting. Or, even one that you've read before that you know you love- I read the Harry Potter books about once a year because I love them so much! They are guaranteed the take my mind off anything and stop me from feeling down. Just make sure you don't read a sad or depressing book when you're feeling like this as I've made that mistake and it's made me feel worse! 


4. Talk to someone.
I know that sounds simple and a bit of a cliche, but it makes a big difference. I was scared to say anything to anyone about feeling so down, because I thought they'd just laugh it off and tell me I had nothing to complain about because I had a good life. This meant that I bottled it up, making it fester and making it worse. I eventually plucked up the courage to talk to my mum and sister about it over dinner and I'm so glad that I did. Far from being dismissive, they sympathised and empathised with how I was feeling. They reassured my that everyone has down times and that they loved me and were here for me whenever I needed to talk. It made me feel so much better and a real weight was lifted by just having said it out loud. The truth is, I know overall I have a good life and a fantastic family, fiance and friends, so I felt guilty for feeling like this, and that I had no right to when others were worse off than me. But, I've come to accept that there is no rationale for feeling sad and it can affect anyone at any time, no matter how perfect looking their life is. So beating myself up for seemingly not appreciating my life (which I do!) was only making things worse. Your family and friends will love you no matter what and will never laugh at you for having these feelings, and if they do then they're not worth your time. 


5. Make a hot drink and take some time out to relax and focus on the solution. 
One of my favourite quotes is 'Where there is tea there is hope'. I am quite a tea-fiend but it's true. Even if you don't like tea, the principle still works. If I'm having a REALLY bad day, then I often make a hot chocolate with cream and marshmallows (always a good idea to pop in the shop on the way home and stock up if you're feeling rubbish!). Usually though, I find camomile tea to be really calming (I love the Twinings Camomile and Spiced Apple) and that helps me to relax. Alongside a good old English cuppa, I also like green tea with jasmine, which is good for you as well- bonus!

When you have made your favourite drink, it is important to make sure that you sit down and really relax. Breathe deeply. Really long, deep breaths that you can feel in your tummy. Put your phone down and have a break from any kind of screen for a few minutes. Try to focus on the solution to the problem and tell yourself that you can deal with anything. A few positive words to yourself work wonders. It's quite good to have a stock phrase (something which The Help inspired me to do 'You is kind, you is smart, you is important'!) to repeat to yourself everyday. It could be anything, from 'you are clever, you are pretty and you are happy'. If you say it enough times, you will start to believe it subconsciously and it should help fuel happy thoughts.  

If, like me, you have been feeling quite down, 
I'm sorry to hear that and I hope things get better soon. 

If you have any other techniques for cheering yourself up, 
I'd love to hear them as well as your thoughts on the ones I've said! 

Rosy x

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11 comments:

  1. Love this post and all the positive ideas but sorry to hear you have been feeling so down. The flowers are beautiful! Plants give off oxygen and smell gorgeous too and one thing that helps me is to go for a short walk outside or sit in the sun if it happens to be out. Just fifteen minutes and I'm usually feeling better.

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    1. Aw thank you! That's a good one, I definitely need to take a break and get some fresh air more often! xxxx

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  2. I think one of the most helpful things to start feeling better is to write a gratitude journal (or list those positive things as you said). I hope you are feeling better soon!

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  3. If you love tea you should try Tea Pigs Jasmine Pearls Tea. It is so refreshing and fragrant and cheers me up/relaxes me no end!

    Rebekah x Roots & Soul

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  4. Lovely tips! I hope you're feeling better x

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  5. Those flowers are beautiful I feel like when payday comes I need to treat myself haha, and I ALWAYS make a hot drink in stressful times which is everyday at the moment, just getting through them like hot cakes haha. I hope you are ok babe x

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  6. Fabulous post! And a lot of things that I do too. I'ma big believer of appreciating the little things and that's why I have a list of things I am thankful for or that made me happy that week, in my Sunday blog posts.
    Hope you feel better soon - especially that slipped disc 'cause gosh I know they're sore!

    Danielle xo
    www.underlandtowonderland.com

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  7. All of these are great tips! Though I've never tried writing three positive things a day and actually think I might have to start after reading this blog post. I can be quite sceptical of tip #4 myself, though. Since I've been suffering from low moods and high anxiety lately. Talking to people can be the best thing to do, but in some situations it can definitely backfire. Feeling the way I currently do has made me realise who my true friends are, and who I can actually talk to without being judged for it. Let's just say I've wiped my hands of a couple of people who told me to "just suck it up and try harder" with my depression/anxiety... Thankfully I'm pretty close to my Mum that I can always tell her anything whenever I need to. While friends are supposedly the family we choose, I've definitely made a few poor judgements, now realising that blood is certainly thicker than water.

    Thanks for this post, it's super helpful and a great reminder to be kind to myself more often :)

    ♡ Emily from Trendpill x

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  8. Awww hun, I feel so sorry for you with your back. I hope something can be done soon to help.
    I know how you feel about thesis writing, I hand in in October and I'm already dead stressed. I love your tips though and I'm definitely going to attempt to put them to good use!
    Look after yourself and good luck x x x
    MissPond | Lifestyle Blog

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  9. I couldn't agree more about the flowers - i am loving sunflowers at the moment as you don't have to wait for them to bloom and they just brighten any room!

    And YES about animated films - i always feel i force people to watch them with me, but they never fail to be a good choice and always make me laugh! Have you seen Inside Out?

    Also very happy to see HP in your book collection :) in terms of hot drinks i am a bit of a tea addict, Whittard are doing 70% off their old range right now - definitely worth a trip!

    Hope you feel better - i have chronic back pain and might be getting a scan for a stress fracture :-/ You're right you don't realise how much you use it for! Sending big (warm Olaf) hugs your way x

    Writing Possibility

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  10. I really do love this post, so important to try and find ways to get out of it instead of allowing it to take over, even attempting to do this means you are halfway there! I think we all feel down, and there doesn't even have to be a reason for it - if it's how you feel it's real, and feelings are never silly and shouldn't be shut down!
    I love flowers, and your idea of a positive diary, I think I will try some of these ideas myself! Personally I would recommend copious amounts of chocolate - good chocolate - making sure you are warm, and like you say, speaking to someone or watching something funny - I recommend New Girl! I actually lol at that programme! haha xxxx

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